Join Courageous Girls Co-Founder, Terra Mattson, for a virtual training on “Starting and Sustaining a Healthy CG Group”.
Whether you’re a new or seasoned CG leader or are thinking about starting a CG group, you will NOT want to miss this unique time of teaching and equipping!
Join Terra and the CG Leadership Coaches, Beth & Steph, on May 19th & 26th (10-11:30am PST) for direction, interaction, and personalized training.
Can’t attend live? No problem! Recorded sessions will be available for a short time during the training so you can watch when it fits into your schedule.
Registration opens May 3rd, but space is limited!
Resources to READ this month:
There are many ways to parent…how do YOU want to parent? We can wrestle with trying to manage our children’s behavior or reflect on how God sees them…LOVED. Grace-based parenting means we parent from an identity that we are LOVED and our children are LOVED. How do we do this? Check out Trueface’s The Cure and The Cure & Parents this month!
Signs of Hope is an intimate collection of stories from Amy Wolff’s personal life, as well as people impacted by the movement, about the power of hope and love in the midst of suffering. This book discusses:
- The drain of compassion fatigue
- Why we should show up imperfectly to help others
- How to claim hope for ourselves
- Practical ideas of how to respond to suffering
- Strategies of how to love people who are “different”
- Resilience when love-spreading efforts backfire
- How to raise a compassionate generation
- The science of hope
Be sure to listen to Episode #72 on the Living Wholehearted Podcast as Amy shares you can be an agent of hope in a world.
Resources to WATCH this month:
We wanted to share about two incredible virtual events; one for parents and one for dads!
PERFECTLY IMPERFECT VIRTUAL CONFERENCE
Don’t miss Jeff and Terra Mattson, CG co-founders, at the Perfectly Imperfect Virtual Conference. They’ll be sharing about how to raise Wholehearted Leaders who know they are loved and love others well. Using the Core Value Index (CVI) and how God uniquely wires each of us, Jeff and Terra will help us lay a foundation every child needs: to be seen, known, and valued. Join them and other incredible speakers like New York Time’s Best Seller Bob Goff, baseball favorite Darryl Strawberry, and Jerrad Lopes of Dad Tired at this year’s Perfectly Imperfect Virtual Conference on April 23 & 24. Register today!
Born To Be Brave Workshop
CG Dads—You will not want to miss this incredible virtual workshop that is designed by Dads for Dads on April 22!
Register for the Born to Be Brave Workshop today!
Resources to LISTEN to this month:
March’s resource list includes topics of the beauty and craziness of emotions, building healthier relationships, grieving and one of our favorite children’s books to help your kids pivot when disappointment hits.
Why Emotions Matter (Tristan & Jonathan Collins)
A read to help us unpack our God-given design as an emotional being
The Tale of Three Trees (Angela Elwell Hunt)
This children’s book helps us pivot when disappointment hits and repurpose what we think our life should be.
Codependent No More (Melody Beattie)
A book defining dysfunctional systems and moving through the lie that “my needs don’t matter”.
Boundaries (Cloud & Townsend)
When to say Yes and how to say No to take control of your life.
My Wynter Season (Jonathan Pitts)
Jonathan writes about seeing God’s faithfulness in the shadow of grief as he shares about losing his wife, Wynter.
Hope Heals & Suffer Strong (Katherine & Jay Wolf)
The Wolfs share their story of suffering and the tremendous hope and impact of their faith as they follow a new course.
Courageous Gathering Keynote speaker, Terra Mattson: Shedding Shame
Courageous Gathering Keynote speaker, Katherine Wolf: The Healing Found
Courageous Gathering speaker, Tristan Collins: Why Emotions Matter
Courageous Gathering speakers, Roshana Grile & Sarah Dangaran: Big Emotions and Children
Many of you are asking us, “What can I read or have my daughter read regarding…?” So, each month we are bringing you relevant resources to help you lead your daughter well. These are simply supplemental resources to your monthly Courageous Girls Lessons to help us all navigate the various issues we are facing today.
February is Black History Month
A core value of Courageous Girls is loving others well and we value the incredible contributions made to our community, nation, and world by countless African Americans. Take time to research or read with your daughters about the inspiring, heroic, and courageous African American women and men. The list below is in no way exhaustive, but merely a starting point.
You might not know
Carter G. Woodson (author, historian, and second African American Harvard Ph.D. graduate) is known as the “Father of Black History”. Woodson’s parents were enslaved. As an adult, he saw a void in the educational system regarding lack of information and achievements made by fellow African Americans. To act on this, Woodson proposed a national “Negro History Week” in February 1926, but it wasn’t until 1976 (during the civil rights movement) that President Gerald R. Ford expanded the week into Black History Month.
Resources to READ this month
You will not want to miss these powerful reads by Dr. Ron Archer, inspirational speaker, business executive trainer, author, recipient of the MLK award and former NFL chaplain. He also happens to be the guest speaker on The Living Wholehearted Podcast (episode 64), see below.
Creative God Colorful Us by Trillia Newbell Check out this incredible book of truth and wisdom that invites you into a deeper understanding and knowing of God’s truth. God could have made us all exactly the same, but He didn’t. And our differences are good! Every person is made by God, in His image, and therefore is equal in value and worth.
Hidden Figures by Margot Lee is ideal for readers 8-12 years of age. This incredible story follows four African-American female mathematicians at NASA who helped achieve some of the greatest moments in our space program.
The Story of Ruby Bridges by Robert Coles tells the courageous story of six-year-old Ruby Bridges and her family who moved from Mississippi to New Orleans in 1960. As a 1st grader, Ruby was ordered by a judge to attend an all white school. In doing so, she faced angry mobs of parents who wouldn’t send their children to school. Ruby’s story of courage, faith, and hope continues to inspire hearts of all ages.
Piecing Me Together by Renee Watson is a powerful story about a girl striving for success in a world that too often seems like it’s trying to break her. This is a poignant read for ages 12-17. On a side note, Renee grew up in the Portland, Oregon area and there are many pieces of her personal story that come to life in this book.
Black Heroes: A Black History Book for Kids: 51 Inspiring People from Ancient Africa to Modern-Day U.S.A by Arlisha Norwood introduces readers 8-12 (and beyond) to 51 black leaders and role models from both history and modern times.
Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson is a powerful memoir that shares about Jacqueline’s childhood through poetry. This memoir would be a poignant read for ages 10-14.
I Have a Dream by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. brings the reader back to August 28, 1963, on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial during the March on Washington, where Martin Luther King gave one of the most powerful and memorable speeches in our nation’s history.
Black Women in Science by Kimberly Brown Pellum. Written for children, this book features 15 powerful stories of courageous female scientists that advanced their STEM fields.
Resources to WATCH this month:
Join CG Co-Founders Jeff and Terra Mattson for a FB Live on the “Core Value Index: Understanding our Wirings”on February 17th at 1:00-1:30pm PST.
Resources to LISTEN to this month:
The Living Wholehearted Podcast. Ron Archer, a recipient of the MLK award has an incredible message to share with the CG community, but particularly our Courageous Girls dads. Be sure to listen in on Ron Archer’s powerful story, which posts Feb 2nd. Also in February, don’t miss Jeff and Terra sharing their love story and the return of Jonathan Pitts with an inspirational message!
Powerful song of Lament by The Porter’s Gate – “He is Among Us”
We’ve curated these books, articles, movies, videos, tools, courses, and more—just for you!
Special Holiday Resources:
Martin Luther King Jr. so eloquently shared that “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.“
As our nation honors Martin Luther King Jr. this month, we wanted to share a few resources with our community that can foster continued understanding, growth, and hearts pointed to Jesus as we navigate the social injustices across our nation together.
Little Lights Urban Ministries in Washington, D.C. is a ministry committed to providing sanctuaries of encouragement, hope, and practical assistance to at-risk children, youth, and families in southeast Washington, DC. Little Lights Founder, Steve Park, has a heart for bridging racial divides in the D.C. community and started leading group cohorts on race and reconciliation several years ago. With the social unrest in 2019 Steve expanded the class virtually to allow individuals across the nation to participate.
The Race Literacy 101 class is an 11-week study and discussion group that meets weekly to learn and discuss authentically and thoughtfully on the issue of race and racism in an honest yet grace-filled environment. The next cohort begins the week of January 13th!
Be the Bridge: Pursuing God’s Heart for Racial Reconciliation by Latasha Morrison
Strength to Love by Martin Luther King Jr.
Resources to READ:
The Daniels Sisters series follows the lives of the Pitts girls who grieve the loss of their mom and move to a new state with their dad, a pastor. In faith and with a new family structure, they begin a new life. Overnight their lives completely changed, but one thing stayed the same — God’s sovereign, guiding hand.
This series is an engaging read for girls ages 8-12, and is part of the Accelerated Reader (AR) program. It also teaches tweens about overcoming obstacles, developing patience and the importance of kindness!
We are so excited to share this tangible way to minister to your daughter’s heart by giving a note of love and encouragement to her. This simple act of love can have a big impact on your daughter’s heart! NOTEworthy Kids—50 Encouraging Notes Every Child Needs to Receive – Christian Parenting.
If you haven’t subscribed to the For Girls Like You Magazine, now is a great time! CG Co-Founder, Terra Mattson’s, youngest daughter Neveah, will be featured in the January/February edition. The For Girls Like You magazine is offering 20% off to our CG Community, with the code COURAGEOUS20. Get a subscription for your daughter here www.forgirlslikeyou.com/subscriptions.
Amazing journal idea! These can be used as part of the CG Curriculum or for any mama & child relationship.
A few great blog articles that we wanted to share with you:
The real digital dilemma: Our children need us to lead – Christian Parenting
The Scars We Have and the Scars We Give — Hope Heals
Resources to LISTEN TO:
Powerful song of lament by The Porter’s Gate – “Wake Up Jesus”
The Bible Project: Justice
The Living Wholehearted Podcast by Jeff & Terra Mattson (co-founders of Courageous Girls). Subscribe so you don’t miss one!
Resources to WATCH:
1:00 – 1:30pm (PST)
Join Terra and her daughter Adonia on the My Courageous Girls Facebook page for our first 2021 FB Live session: “Healthy Relationships”
Just Mercy is a bestselling book by Bryan Stevenson that has been adapted into a feature film. It is a story of justice and redemption. A powerful true story about the Equal Justice Initiative, the people we represent, and the importance of confronting injustice.
Courageous Book Study
This 5-week online study begins February 3rd and is led by author and CG co-founder, Terra Mattson. Join Terra for this encouraging study and get registered by January 31st. You won’t want to miss it!
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery by mending the areas of breakage with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. Oregon artist, Stephanie Schmidt, started making Japanese Kintsugi because she believes the symbolism of this ancient art form tenderly realizes the juxtaposition of beauty and ashes we find in our lives.
These limited edition “Beloved-Beauty from Brokenness” vases are inspired from the words of Isaiah 61 (beauty from ashes) and 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (His grace is sufficient), and are each handmade by Stephanie for our Courageous Girls Community. Even in the midst of brokenness, beauty can be found. In fact, the brokenness can be mended into something that is far stronger than its original form. Beauty from ashes. Truly, it is through God’s GRACE that the brokenness is made into something beautiful again.
In Courageous Girls, we want to help moms discover their own courage in raising a daughter who knows herself as LOVED. These Kintsugi vases serve as a reminder to Courageous mamas and daughters that we, as Courageous Girls, can be honest about our frailties and limits, knowing that God is not after our perfection. He is after our heart. God wants us to trust Him with all of who we are so that He can make all things new.
Our mistakes, our wounds, our brokenness do not define us. Each mama and daughter was designed for a purpose, and is uniquely equipped for that purpose. God uses ALL of our story, not just the parts that are Instagram worthy, but the parts where we have experienced brokenness, pain, and hard. Stephanie leaves one piece missing in each of her vases to remind us that He will complete us when we see Him again in Heaven and in the brokenness of our humanity, there is beauty.
These parallels to life are deeply meaningful to Stephanie. Like most people, she has suffered brokenness in life and knows the pain and hard work that goes into repairing the “cracks”. However, she believes there is a beauty in what has been healed…even when scars remain.
To support the CG movement in walking alongside moms and daughters as they experience God’s grace, Stephanie will donate 15% of the proceeds to the Courageous Girls Movement when you purchase a Courageous Girls Limited Edition Handmade “Beloved-Beauty from Brokenness” Kintsugi Vase. You can buy these limited edition vases in CG Shop now!
To hear more of Stephanie’s personal beauty into ashes story, check out Episodes 53 & 54 on the Living Wholehearted Podcast, aired by CG co-founders, Jeff & Terra Mattson.
Suffering has most certainly been a daily theme playing out over the course of this last year. We know, you probably just want to shove it aside and not talk about it anymore. But the truth is, we did find some treasures in the midst of all the hard.
A global pandemic has brought new weights of worry as to how to keep our family and friends safe, as well as economic concerns, social unrest, and emotional discomfort. The disparities of injustices present in health care, education, and communities has heightened visibility. Essentially, the life we knew in 2019 had come to a screeching halt in 2020.
Grief, anger, fear, anxiousness, uncertainty, and doubt are emotions you may have experienced at one point or another during this past year. Maybe all at once?
We all wrestled with how to bring a sense of “normalcy” to our families when nothing felt “normal.” Perhaps you thought turning the clock forward to 2021 would distance us all from toilet paper shortages, stay at home orders, and online learning.
To use a term coined by Katherine Wolf, author of Hope Heals and Suffer Strong, what if 2020 was a “good hard” year and now that it’s in the rearview mirror, we can consider what good it brought in the midst of hard?
What if we stepped back to see it from a different perspective?
A clearer perspective.
What if we could see it from God’s perspective?
God’s 2020 vision
The decreasing of kid activities were a gift of TIME for creating new family rhythms and deeper connection. Feelings of loneliness and isolation gave us the OPPORTUNITY to LEAN into Him more, trust Him more, and evaluate where we put our hope. A slower daily rhythm allowed us to not only see the injustices, pain, and suffering around us, but to maybe ACT in love toward our community.
God’s 2020 vision provides a different perspective. A vertical one rather than a horizontal one. Through His lens, we are seen, regardless of the year or circumstances, allowing us to finally see others. We are not the only ones suffering. In 2020 we began to see others and their struggles. Maybe we developed some empathy muscles?
“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” 1 John 4:7
The daily burdens of working from home, monitoring online learning, managing kiddos that seem to disagree more than agree build RESILIENCY in us moms. In our kids. We were stretched to near breaking points, yet tangibly felt God meeting us and helping us carry our burdens.
“He tends his flock like a shepherd; He will gather the lambs in His arm; He will carry them close to His heart and gently lead those that are with young.” Isaiah 40:11
The hopelessness felt in our world with rising political tension, surges in COVID cases, mounting racial tension, and continued isolation have been an opportunity to surrender the baseline of our faith. Our HOPE is found only in Jesus.
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13
The omission of gleaning happiness from travel, sporting events, concerts, or eating a meal out was an awakening to CHOOSE joy and happiness in God. Maybe not every time, but we sure had opportunity. For in praying for joy, we are asking for God to grow the Fruit of His Spirit to sustain our hearts, rather than holding tight to our calendars.
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds.” James 1:2
Mamas, as we reflect on the year 2020, may we be encouraged in knowing that God has been with us every step of the way, even if we haven’t felt Him. As we prepare to venture further into 2021, consider taking time to remember and reflect on what God has done in you and through you this last year. He is at work. Even in the darkest of seasons.
We are so thankful for each of you and the opportunity to walk together in raising daughters rooted in God’s amazing grace and abundant love.
Be loved and love well.
Steph West & Beth Kershner
Courageous Girls Leadership Coaches
If you find yourself weary, isolated, confused, and burned out, you might look around and wonder what’s next. After a year of twists and turns, it’s time to shore up where we are… we need each other and we need our God.
Terra A. Mattson, co-founder of Courageous Girls and Living Wholehearted, author, podcaster, and licensed professional counselor and coach, is leading a personalized 5-week book study through her first book, Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace. Grab a warm drink and your Bible for a conversation about holy crap, feeling it to heal it, tuning into the voice of grace, being known in community, friendship, being fearless… almost, dreaming big, and finding rhythms of rest.
Terra CANNOT wait to personally encourage and equip you for such a time as this. This is for any woman who is ready and willing to be reminded of who she is, who her God is, and how to live a life rooted in grace. Start your year off with roots where you need them most.
The 5-week study starts Wednesday, February 3, 2021 and will meet each Wednesday from 10:00 – 11:00 AM (PST) through March 3.
Don’t worry if you miss one of the sessions—each meeting will be recorded and you’ll have access to recordings.
You can sign up at the Living Wholehearted Store where you can choose from two options:
- Already have the book? The cost is $20 for 5-week study.
- Need the book? The cost is $30 for the 5-week study and includes a mailed, signed copy of Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace. Your book will arrive 6-8 days after you order.
Registration ends January 31 so sign up today!
Great gift for a family member or friend!
Aimee Eckley, Rachel Meiser, and I had such a wonderful time recording the CG Panel discussion for you. If you missed hearing it at the Courageous Gathering in July, we have the panel discussion recording available for FREE for our CG Community now!
FREE download – “The Heart of Courageous Girls” panel discussion
Our time together really dives into the heartbeat of the Courageous Girls Movement. We examined how unique the CG community is compared to existing clubs or groups, specifically the component of committing to an intentional relationship with our daughters, while allowing God to transform both moms and daughters for His mighty impact on the world around us. The curriculum provides a vehicle for this intentionality, which includes learning about our identity, learning tools for conflict and tackling real world challenges through the lens of what God says.
We also share with great honesty what is entailed in leading a Courageous Girls group. You will hear practical and philosophical questions about creating, building, nurturing, and sustaining Courageous Girls groups.
Whether you are a veteran CG mama or a curious new mama just wanting to learn a little more about why CG is worth investing in with your daughter(s), we invite you to join the discussion!
Be sure to check out the Courageous Gathering keynotes and breakout session speakers. There are so many amazing resources available to you as a mom, leader, woman… all the hats you wear!
Rooted in Grace,
Courageous Leadership Coach
Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield at The Dad Whisperer podcast recently talked with Jeff Mattson, co-founder of Living Wholehearted & Courageous Girls, and his youngest daughter, Nevie Mattson.
In this interview, Jeff shares about activating adventures with his two daughters.
As an added bonus, Nevie joins the conversation and shares about the adventures she has had with her dad in the great outdoors!
To listen, please visit The Dad Whisperer.